IC / OOC Etiquette

IC Etiquette

It is expected that all players will be polite and show common courtesy and common decency to their fellow players, even if ICly that would be out of the question. To that end, the following are expected from all players:

  • Ask before joining a scene. You are certainly free to walk through public rooms, but for politeness's sake, we ask that you ask in an OOC comment something along the lines of 'Hey, mind if I join in?' or 'Do you mind if I watch?' if you stay. Most players will (and should) gladly welcome you. If the people involved in the scene are in the middle of something where adding a new person will disrupt the flow of the scene and decline your request for RP, please be understanding.
  • If you're a player denying a request to join a scene, sometimes it can go a long way if you just propose a raincheck, suggest an alternate time for a scene with the requesting player. This policy seeks to preserve everyone's enjoyment of the game and promote a happy environment.
  • Do not write actions that assume success of contact or the actions/reactions of another character. Conversely, remember ICA=ICC (In-Character Actions = In-Character Consequences). Don't do something to provoke actions against your character without expecting them to occur.
  • If a player declines to join combat, witness a criminal act, or be privy to mature content poses, accept that polite refusal and do not make those poses. That might mean taking your RP elsewhere.
  • If you are troubled by another player's rudeness, talk to the other player. Discuss your problem politely and openly, with the intent of reaching agreement. If unsuccessful, please let Staff know so we can mediate. It is our job here to help players interface in a positive environment that fosters fun for everyone.

OOC Etiquette

In general, common courtesy will get you far when dealing with other characters. Please read and consider the following:

Politeness counts.

In most cases, it takes less effort to be polite and generous with your fellow players than it does to be curt, impolite, or unfriendly. When asking something of another player, do so politely and your request is far more likely to be granted. When discussing an issue with a player or Staff, politeness could make all the difference between successfully communicating your point or earning yourself the ire of the one to whom you're talking.


Combat is an active part of roleplaying at CDM, and we have public +sheets as an aid to combat RP. You must determine a mutual desire to role-play combat BEFORE presenting an attacking "pose." Power posing, twinking, etc is absolutely forbidden. (See also: IC Etiquette and Combat)

OOC threats, name-calling, racism, misogyny, and aggression of any sort will not be tolerated. If you are angry with someone, find a way to express it or explain it that doesn't include threats, degrading remarks, or aggressive behavior. If you have a dispute with another character that cannot be handled in a mature fashion, ask for a moderator to intervene. It is also inappropriate to make OOC jokes or threats about rape or sexual assault. When we say that this will not be tolerated, we mean you get ONE warning. Staff is here to help with disputes. Don't hesitate to contact them in these cases.

If someone is harassing you, log the incident and contact staff immediately. (See Also: Harassment)

Dark and Off-Duty Staff

Staffers may set themselves DARK or Off-Duty for a variety of reasons. Please respect their privacy.

You should not page a DARK or Off-Duty staffer without first having explicit permission. If you need to speak to them, even if you need Wizardly or staffly help, leave a polite @mail for them. If they want to respond to you at the moment, they will. If they do not respond, it's not worth taking personally!

Private Areas

It's considered good form to page a person, ask and wait for an answer before joining them in a privately-owned area such as a bedroom or an apartment. This is doubly true if there's anyone else there with them! Should you wish to conduct private RP, have a private conversation or engage in intimate scenes, private areas are the places to do so.

Public Areas & Establishments

The other side of the coin, of course, is that public places are *public*. It's fine to walk into a public area (such as a coffeehouse) unannounced. If you're having a private conversation in a public place, be aware that others may enter and please don't ask them to leave. If you need to have a private conversation, take it elsewhere.

TinySex (TS), however, is absolutely forbidden from any public place. If you are caught TS'ing in a public place, you will be warned from staff. If you are caught TSing again in public, your characters will be removed from the database. If you are uncertain what is public and private, ASK.


We will not tolerate players submitting others' work as their own. This goes for applications, wiki information, and even the content in logs. If you are caught plagiarizing material (be it from other players on or off-game, or copyrighted content from external webpages) found not to be your own, you will be ordered to remove that same content and rewrite it again in your own words. This could affect the approval of your character, your on-game logs, or your character's wiki page, so we ask not to take chances. Plagiarism of others can also mean an infraction when it comes to player discipline.

Language & Character Bias

This is a mature role-playing game. Any and all persons should feel welcome here and to engage in quality role-playing.

Expect to encounter people of all sexual orientations, political beliefs, and education levels. You do not have to RP with people, but you do have to be polite and understanding. Separate OOC behavior of players and the IC behavior of their characters; nasty boys and girls make the RP world go 'round. Don't expect others to conform to your style of speech, and don't expect them to understand or listen to you if you make no effort to talk with them in terms and style they're comfortable with. A little less vulgarity won't kill a scene, but it might make a player more comfortable. A little respect goes a long way.

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